In order to have a healthy relationship with anyone else in your life, you need to learn how to LOVE YOURSELF FIRST (Secret #1 in my book 7 Secrets for Girls!). I am talking about unconditional love, as is, here and now, no matter what. Loving yourself is the best gift you could possibly ever give to you. It seems like such a simple thing, but most people struggle with low self-esteem and self-worth, especially girls and women. If you do not love yourself, then how do you expect someone else to love you the way you deserve to be loved?
Everyone is born with high self-esteem. So what the heck happens to it between the time you were young and now? I will tell you what happened to it. Over time you receive negative messages from the world, the media, your family, friends, intimate partners, and significant others that chip away at your self-esteem. Unfortunately, the most important people in your life should be giving you positive reinforcement and feedback and instead they are often very critical and mean. I say shame on them. But, you will never know why they act like they do. Maybe their parents were mean to them and the cycle has just kept repeating itself, which by the way is absolutely no excuse. Usually people are so unhappy with themselves and their lives that they feel the need to take it out on everyone else around them. Regardless of the reason for this bad behavior, this is where you need to step in and take back control of your life because we only have one chance to do it right and find happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. Today is your day, so let’s get going.
You need to love yourself no matter what is going on in your life. It is funny how sometimes you think that if you have a boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband that suddenly your life will get better. Then you finally get one and you are still not happy. Most people try to replace what is missing within themselves with other people. It does not work. The truth is that you need to be happy with yourself and your life today and the rest will fall into place. If you do not love yourself, no one else will be able to love you properly. EVERYONE deserves to be loved and treated like gold.
Do you love yourself? Do you feel good about yourself when you look in the mirror? Do you say positive things to yourself? If not and you liked what you read so far, you can definitely learn how to love yourself by clicking on the link below to get a copy of my book 7 SECRETS FOR GIRLS ~ SIMPLE SOLUTIONS TO SURVIVE BOYS & STAY SANE! I learned how & I can’t wait to teach you…it is so much easier than you think!
All my best,
Dari Dyrness-Olsen, MA, LPC
America's Safe Dating Coach
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